Blaen Cwm Penant, near Porthmadog


in North Wales

Premarriage Course

(Click "Marriage Prep" above for the overview of Marriage Preparation)


This is just an outline of my usual premarriage course (in 4 separate meetings:)


1st hour-long meeting:  Overview of the Church’s understanding of Christian marriage; how it has subtle features that are not seen in just 'living together' or even in a registry marriage of non-Christians; leading onto one or two exercises looking at how the two of you relate (these can be fun!)


2nd hour:  Looking into aspects of marriage such as:  continuing to explore how you relate; your parental family’s expectations of daily life vs. your partner’s family’s expectations; who does what in your relationship; each of your attitudes to religion; attitudes to money, etc.


3rd Hour:  Your attitudes to having children and to their rearing; sexuality; some discussion on natural family planning; further time for questions; etc.


4th hour:  Canon (Church) Law of marriage; filling in and signing of the Catholic Church’s “Information for Marriage” form and discussing the permissions needed (eg. for a mixed-religion marriage;) a look at the legal contractual words of the ‘Consent’ in the marriage service and their significance; planning your service- whether to go for a Nuptial Mass or for the Wedding Service without Mass and Holy Communion; the bible readings to be used and who would read them; the bridal march, hymns and wedding march; arrangements for flowers; arranging a date for a rehearsal and who can attend that; etc.  Conclusion.   (Note that planning your particular service will usually need to be with the clergyman who officiates at your wedding; not necessarily Fr. Bob.)